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About jenna3

jenna3 started this conversation
Dec 5, 2008

My name is Jennifer.  I am a young single mother and seem to not quite be able to hit my feet on the floor.  I left my drug addicted husband last year as he tore my family apart.  He gets out of jail in December of this year.  I am so close to a divorce it is not even funny.  Then my lawyer tells me that I have to pay for a seperation as a well as a divorce.  Same process, different papers.  I can not get divorced.  I can not get state aid as I am not a battered woman.  I can not get a lawyer to take my case for free and I can not seem to find help anywhere. 

I am a full time student working towards a psycology degree and the man that I am involved with now works full time for 11 an hour but still only bringing home 350.00 a week.  On top of all the bills there is no extra money for a divorce let alone anything else. I work part time but only bring home 70 extra dollars a week. When we fell behind on the electric, We were told that electric is a luxury not a necessity.  Can you believe that?  Me either.  My son is two and the most important thing in the world to me.  All I wanna do is pay off the bills and provide him with some kind of Christmas this year, as he has never had one.  I am on my own.  I was a troubled teen who let a bad decision destroy my family and as a result, not I have no family. My fiance's family is not around and the community is just drained. I desperatly need a thousand dollar loan to catch up on my bills.  I can not get a lender anywhere.  Community, privately. If I do not find help soon I will lose my home and the only stability my child has.  If anyone can help me or direct me a direction that is new I would love to be all ears. I am not looking for a hand out, just a hand up and a line of communication

 

Thanks

Jenn

 

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luvmy3kids
Dec 5, 2008

hello,try calling your local courthouse and ask for legal aide that you can apply for based on your income and they can refer you to an attorney or go to legal aide.com to find out about what's available to you in your area.

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jenna3
Dec 5, 2008

What do you do when there is no community resources??  I have been everywhere to everyone and still no help.  I do get food stamps and wic and medicaid.  Unfortunately those things still do not pay bills.  I work, full time student, my fiance works and still we can not get ahead.  Not one foot.  We do not live outside our means and budget accordingly.  What happens though, when you lose it all, move and then have no help.  I will tell you, the state threatens to take your child for "neglect".  That is crap.  He is loved and clothed and taken care of.  I can not pay a power bill or maybe we struggle for a week or so for food, but does that mean I deserve to lose my child.  Hell no.....I am good mother.  I go to school and damn it I am trying with all my little heart and you are still knocking on my door telling me I am losing.  What happened to A for effort and let us see how we can resolve this problem.  What happened to the neighbor who had no problem lending a cup of sugar??  Everyone is out for themselves and I am tired of fighting alone.  There are drug addicts that get all the state assistance in the world, but the minute you try, get a job and move forward the state turns their back on you.  There is no transition process.  No grace period.  Not a let's give her a monthe and make sure they are gonna be ok.  No, you get a job you lose ALL your benefits and then where are you....right back in the damn line.

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